Avoiding problems after marriage

Yes, you guessed it right – the best way to avoid problems later is to plan for those possibilities in advance.

It is much better to be happy in marriage than to have to live through it as a duty. Of course, at times there maybe things which seem tough, and one may wade through those troubled waters on the strong legs of duty, but it is hard for normal people to go on based on just duty.

There has to the strong joy in Krishna bhakti and if one has planned properly, chosen the spouse properly, then issues are fewer.


Prevention is Better than Cure

ISKCON has a Grihasta Vision Team (GVT), a group of certified marriage and family therapists dedicated to the health of ISKCON devotee marriages. Krsnanandini Dasi and her husband Tariq Ziyad is a member of the GVT.


     One of the GVT’s strongest recommendations, which Krsnanandini advocates before anything else, is that both female and male devotees do everything they can before marriage to make sure they get a partner who is compatible with them in Krishna consciousness and in everything else in life.

    They advise,  “We like to encourage devotees to get at least ten to twelve hours of pre-marital education with qualified marriage and family educators who themselves have healthy Krishna conscious marriages,”

Krsnanandini says. “Examine what both of your motives are, what your goals are, and look realistically at your expectations of each other. What roles do you see yourselves playing? For instance, the traditional role of a wife may be to cook, clean and do the laundry, but what if she works full-time just like the man? It’s also important to learn good communication and conflict resolution skills, to deal with some of the baggage that both people bring from their families of origin, and even to discuss how you will manage your finances.”

There can be many such issues. Best to always keep in touch with your Counselor and seniors in devotional life while making your choices.

One important thing, specially for those who lived with parents and families all their life. Talk to parents, your close friends and those who care about you. They may not be devotees of Krishna but they know your nature quite well. They will be able to give you some idea on how much the lady or gentleman you intend to marry matches your intrinsic nature.

Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare

Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare

Bond gets married

His name is Bond – Austin Bond – and he got married !!!

Bhakta Austin Bond got married to Parameswari Radha Devi Dasi recently. We are so happy to hear from them. We wish them all the very best in their married life and pray it is filled with joy in Krishna Consciousness.

Here is their letter to us.

Hare Kṛṣṇa,Please accept my humble obeisances. All glories to Srila Prabhupada.
I pray this message meets all the servants at Marryadevotee.com very well.
My wife, Parameswari Radha Devi Dasi, and I are so pleased with the wonderful service that this site provides. It allowed us to connect with each other from so far, the United States and Bangladesh, and with the blessings of our Guru Maharajs, to get married. We finally met in person, after corresponding for 6 months on the internet in Sri Vrindavan Dham during Kartik time where we went on Vraja Mandala Parikrama, and the Holy Name and Govardhana Retreats with Sacinandana Swami Maharaj, and my Guru Maharaj, Bhurijana Prabhu. Then we travelled to Sridhama Mayapur and spent 1 week there. We were in the Holy Dhams for 2 months.After that we both went back to our respective countries, and after 2 months, I came to Bangladesh, and all my family soon followed. We got married in Sri Pundarik Dham, the place where Pundarik Vidyanidhi appeared and it was a wonderful occasion. We are now residing in Bangladesh where I am an online English teacher and BBT Book Editor. Parameswari is now studying at an American University online. We are awaiting her visa to go back to the United States. Thank you all again for your wonderful service. We will continue to recommend our friends.
Your servants,Bh. Austin Bond and Parameswari Radha Devi Dasi

Devaki Mataji has some nice courses for aspiring couples

Perhaps some of you may have heard of Her Grace Devaki Devi Dasi who has been a long standing ISKCON devotee. She preaches in Ukraine and Bangladesh and is from Germany.

She offers many nice courses which help prepare a person to enter Grihasta Ashram in the right mood and with the proper expectations. The courses are for both men and women.

Fortunately she is very magnanimous and has made all her videos and audio lectures freely available on

https://www.therootsofspiritualculture.net/recordings.html

Please visit this website and check out the recordings.

I can assure you that you will find the material very interesting and sastric.

All the very best in your search for the ideal devotee of Krishna who has been ordained for you.

your servant

Mahaprabhu Caitanya Das